Dancing On the Scales Through Time

Let’s go beyond the noise for a moment—

and into the undercurrent that created it.

This undercurrent didn’t just show up one day.

It didn’t build our systems without first shaping our psyche.

Before it became a system or became a hierarchy...

Before it became a word thrown across timelines and headlines—

It was a wound.

A sidestep in humankind.

But no step is a misstep, only a path of discovery.

I’m speaking on patriarchy.

Stay with me.

It started as a survival response.

A ripple effect that took root in generations. Like a ripple in the pond, it began to shape how we see the world, how we relate to ourselves, and echos the steps we take to stay safe.

It began in the micro:

In the nervous system, in inherited beliefs, and in family lines.

The louder it got, the harder it became to hear ourselves over it.

So today, we’re not just asking what patriarchy is.

We’re asking what made it possible.

How it became embodied—particularly in the United States and how to build a relationship with its energy… rather than recreate more imbalance under the guise of freedom. Our next steps could very well be shaping the next 10,000 years. No pressure, though.

The Consciousness That Created It

Patriarchy didn’t begin with men versus women.

It began with a fracture between control and trust, survival and sovereignty, separation and connection.

This wasn’t abstract, It played out across centuries—shaping leaders, empires, religions, economies, and eventually, everyday life.

It’s not just history, It’s a pattern that kept repeating until it became normal. Expected even.

To overcome this, we don’t simply demolish what we’ve built from it..

We learn to rewire the consciousness behind the motives that drove it.

A Quick (But Necessary) Origin Story

There are a vast array of historical shifts—

but let’s bring in a few enlightening ones.

They help us see how patriarchal consciousness—a mindset shaped by disconnection, fear, and hierarchy—took form, systemized itself, and then seeped into everything from national values to nervous system regular irregularities.

1. The Agricultural Revolution (10,000–8,000 BCE)

We moved from living with the land to controlling it.

From seasonal trust to guaranteed stored security.

From shared resources to property and ownership.

This was the first time the feminine aspect of life that was in in itself—life-giving, intuitive, cyclical nature—was questioned for its unpredictability.

What was once sacred became utilitarian.

Spectrum Shift:

Trust in natural cycles was tipped by control of land, body, and lineage.

Reciprocity became extraction.

2. The Rise of Monotheistic Religions (approx. 2,000 BCE onward)

Feminine individualism was erased, renamed, or demonized. For a stern example, priesthood became centralized, law replaced mystery and Heaven became somewhere distant, ruled by a Father.

The feminine was removed from the holy, and the holy was removed from the body.

Spectrum Shift:

Embodied wisdom was polarized by abstract doctrine.

Matriarchal mysticism caved into patriarchal control.

3. The Witch Hunts (1450–1750 CE)

Midwives, herbalists, and intuitive women—keepers of body-based wisdom—were labeled as dangerous.

Over 80% of those persecuted were women.

This wasn’t justice.

It was fear disguised as order.

It was power eliminating what it couldn’t control.

Spectrum Shift:

Intuition and nature-based knowledge became external, state-sanctioned terror.

Feminine sovereignty was silenced in the name of purity.

4. The Industrial Revolution (18th–19th Century)

Land was decimated for factories.

People became machines.

Worth became attached to how efficient you work within the system.

Feminine rhythms—rest, nurture, gestation—no longer fit in the mold because they were no longer seen as efficient.

Spectrum Shift:

Natural rhythm was loudly trumped by linear productivity.

Feeling and intuition were deemed inefficient.

5. Capitalism + Western Colonialism

As nations expanded, local sovereignty was destroyed.

The pattern of domination rippled. It was faster than what it conquered, more effective than what proved sustainable.

Patriarchy became global.

But here’s the plot twist: this fragmentation severed everyone from wholeness—including those doing the oppressing.

When you dominate everything outside you, you disconnect from what’s within you too.

Spectrum Shift:

Cultural connection started to shatter.

Sustainability was replaced with hoarding and hierarchy.

6. The Feminist Movement (20th Century)

Here we had a necessary roar.

Women reclaimed voice, choice, and autonomy.

But in doing so, many entered into systems still designed purely by masculine ideals.

Power was often redefined by performance.

Softness was still labeled as weakness.

The bar was set—and woman of course rose to the occasion.

Spectrum Shift:

Voice was reclaimed, but feminine traits were still devalued.

Liberation was tracked by masculine metrics.

7. Today’s Overcorrections

In modern spaces, we see the inverse:

The feminine archetype, exhausted from proving her worth, is now led by the same anger—fighting for control, independence, and law, flipping the polarity rather than integrating it.

That’s just a classic flip script.

It has a similar end and a continuation of history in different colors and patterns. We could go there, but do we need to?

Danger Zone:

Reconnection leaning into codependence.

Sovereignty led by isolation.

Sacred feminine driven by suspicion of masculine order.

So Where Does the U.S. Come In?

The United States is a well-rounded product of patriarchal-driven consciousness.

It was born from rebellion, designed by patriarchal men, and built on:

• Independence over interdependence

• Control over connection

• Productivity over presence

• Law over relationship

Our systems echo this:

• Healthcare favoring tests over voice and intuition

• Education rewarding conformity over creativity

• Corporate workforce glorifying burnout over inner rhythm

• Leadership and governance by force and manipulation over collaboration

Even our religions and spirituality have been flattened like a poorly cooked soufflé—tied to performance, progress, and “earning” divine favor, forgetting that everyone is inherently worthy of it. Yes, everyone. Yes, you.

Patriarchal energy didn’t just build this nation; it’s taken the time to embody all aspects of it. The pros and the cons.

If we pause long enough…

We can see beyond it.

Beyond all the noise it’s made, there are other paths being paved from a place of understanding that nothing lasts forever, but some things stay consistent.

Patriarchy has had its time. It has been witnessed in its entirety.

Now is the moment where we gain opportunity to balance the scales.

The Real Work: Rebalancing the Spectrum

My intention in sharing this isn’t to wage war on what was—but to loosen the grip it still has on us. To rise above the never ending arguments and agendas and see where it stems from. To go beyond the noise into a deeper understanding of how to move forward with intention instead of creating more noise.

We don’t need a new system of domination.

We need a new relationship with power.

Not as a goal to chase

but as a rhythm to relearn.

This isn’t about erasing patriarchy.

It’s about unweaving what no longer holds truth,

and reweaving what does.

So, what would that look like?

I can't guarantee an outcome, but the work?

It would look like this:

1. Control ↔ Trust

Patriarchy feared uncertainty, so it built certainty—through plans, rules, and rigid order.

We do this too.

We plan to protect ourselves.

We control to feel safe.

But control isn’t always toxic, and trust isn’t always passive.

Real balance is:

Structure that can stretch.

Strategy with space for soul.

Boundaries rooted in discernment, not fear.

2. Survival ↔ Sovereignty

When fear leads, we obey systems that promise safety—jobs, roles, expectations.

We mistake performance for belonging.

But sovereignty whispers:

“You’re already whole.”

Not superior. Not dependent. Whole.

Balance here is:

Freedom with responsibility.

Power without needing to dominate.

3. Separation ↔ Connection

Patriarchy split things to manage them—

mind from body,

man from woman,

sacred from mundane.

But what if it’s not about merging everything into one—

but recognizing the value of both?

Balance is:

“I see you. I see me. And we both belong.”

4. Logic ↔ Intuition

Logic was made the leader. Intuition, the liability.

But wisdom lives in the marriage of both.

Balance is:

Gut truth grounded in action.

Emotion shaped by understanding.

Decisions led by heart and held by mind.

A Caution Against Healing Through Reversal

Let’s be honest

If we replace patriarchal domination with enmeshment, we’ve missed the point.

Where patriarchy imposes domination and control, enmeshment dissolves boundaries and identity. It’s the shadow of deep connection without distinction. Just as patriarchy over-defines and separates, enmeshment under-defines and merges.

Both distort power.

Both fear sovereignty.

Both create dependency just in opposite ways.

Flipping around the scale is still imbalance.

These energies—masculine and feminine—were never meant to compete.

They were meant to dance.

One holds, the other flows.

One leads, the other responds.

Then they switch—fluid, trusting, aware.

This isn’t about who’s stronger.

It’s about knowing when to offer strength

and when to allow softness.

Both are sacred.

Both are needed.

Neither thrive in isolation.

Micro and Macro Bridge

If we want to heal this in the world—and particularly in the U.S.—we begin with how it lives in us:

• Where do I reach for control instead of cultivating trust? Or the contrast, where do I trust where it has not served?

• Where do I still link my worth to productivity? Where does my productivity serve me, and where does it hinder?

• Where am I rejecting support in the name of independence? Where am too dependent on systems?

Every time you rebalance one of these in yourself,

you change the room you’re in and changed rooms change the narrative.

Changing the narrative is changing the game, or in this case history.

✨Final Thoughts ✨

Patriarchy is not a villain to defeat.

It’s a frequency we inherited.

A lens we absorbed before we even knew we were looking through one.

So rather than destroy it,

let’s transmute it.

Let’s trace it to its roots,

honor what it tried to protect,

and continue forward instead of sideways.

Not to punish the past

but to remember what was forgotten.

True power doesn’t push.

It harmonizes.

The future won’t be written in extremes.

It will rise

in the space between.

Where nuance lives.

In the dance.

Where we listen.

Where we trust.

Where we learn.

Where we grow.